On Being Silent

Keeping Quiet


As part of growth, you need to know when to talk and when to keep mute. Unlike introverts, extroverts need to master the art of overlooking issues, holding themselves from retorting and simply keeping quiet.


You don’t always have to share your opinion on a topic or voice out your thoughts. I am not implying that you should fail to stand up for what you believe and be a pushover. All I am saying is that sometimes silence is golden.

You Don’t Know It All

Accept that you have knowledge gaps. Even if you have knowledge on the topic in question you may lack adequate knowledge of the context. Listen more. You don’t always have to correct people.

Mind Your Business

You don’t have to constantly be in the faces of people. Somehow, most people think they know how others should live their lives better than the people in question. Hence, the unsolicited advice. This is demonstrated in how we give others advice in life and on social media. Keep quiet. Don’t be quick to offer advice. 

Let People Figure Out Life On Their Own

This one is a hard one if you like to give solutions and fix people. There’s no manual on life. Allow people to live, make mistakes and learn from them. Don’t watch people go astray without doing anything. However, know when to stop bombarding them with advice which comes across as subtle pressures. Don’t project your fears on them. I know you mean well but just let them be sometimes. Call them to order when they go off but know when to come in.


You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Listening is a great skill to have. Talking is not bad in itself but sometimes you need the wisdom to determine when to talk and when to stay quiet. Most importantly, age is not synonymous to wisdom.


Also published on Medium.