“Why worry about things you can’t control when you can keep yourself busy controlling the things that depend on you?” ~Unknown
There are limits to the things you can control at a particular time in life. There’s the need to differentiate between what you can control and what you cannot. Focus on what you can control and willingly accept what’s outside your control.
Guard your space by being intentional about the things you can control and taking full responsibility for them. Even among the things you can control, you need to find the wisdom to know what you should control, what to prioritise, what to outsource and what to ignore totally.
Among other things, here’s what you should control.
What You Consume
Would you purposefully drink a shiny bottle of poison assuming you do not have any suicidal thoughts? Would you intentionally harm yourself? Why then do you feed your mind with things which harm you? Why do you entertain thoughts which derail your progress? Eating poorly results in high cholesterol level, obesity or underweight, weak immune system etc. Can you imagine the result of poorly feeding your mind?
What you feed your mind with influences the quality of your thoughts and life as a whole. Populate your mind with content which edifies. You have to be extremely choosy about the music you listen to, the books you read, the movies you watch, the sermons you listen to and everything that enters your mind. Drill it down to the basics.
Who You Associate With
For every relationship you build, you’re going to experience a rob off and peer pressure of some sort. Do yourself a favour and be in the right company. Letting go of people is painful especially when you’ve created a bond with them over time. Letting go doesn’t mean the people are bad. It just means you recognise the level of sanity their presence takes away and are better off without them at the moment.
Spend time deleting, unfollowing and blocking people in your contacts, on social media and in your life. Do it out of love and remain firm with your decision.
The Battles You Fight
Your time on earth is limited. You don’t have to fight everyone or everything. I am not suggesting you become a pushover. Stand for what you believe in. But reserve your energy for battles that matter. Be picky with your battles like you are with your clothes. Ignore the trivial battles.
What You Say No To
“Be ruthless to the things that don’t matter… The more you say no to the things that don’t matter, the more you can say yes to the things that do.” – Ryan Holiday.
Before you can easily say no to a juicy offer which threatens your personal values, you need to master the art of saying no to yourself first. Say no to yourself when you’re tempted to watch a movie instead of working on your side hustle. Say no to sleep when you’re supposed to be up and praying. Practice saying no to your selfish desires. Saying no to others will become easier as a result.
Ruthlessly guard your space, even if it makes you unpopular. Your future self will thank you for it.
Also published on Medium.